I spent an hour writing it, and it's a nice summary of the things that wake me in the night about homeschooling.
Homeschooling is not easy,
and I think it's even trickier once you get past the elementary years.
Once these guys hit puberty, they have a much stronger urge to be with
their peers, and we see their very best (and their very worst) when they
are actively engaged with a group. Any parent really looking at their
child will know that we actually cannot inspire the same thought and
work that a group of motivated peers can.
I know as a homeschooler I am not supposed to say things like
that, but I also know that I've struggled with it since Ezra turned
seven. I realized I could teach the children pretty much anything but I
could never play with them like another seven-year-old. Though I
struggled against being a "soccer mom", driving my over-scheduled
children from one enrichment to the next, I have not really found
another way to balance this genuine desire for peers against my genuine
mistrust and dislike of the institutional school system.
My understanding is that the public school available to you
completely will not meet (anon 1) academic needs and interests. That the
school will not be at all like the program she went to this summer.
While you also cannot offer what she experienced this summer, there are
many resources available throughout the school year where you could give
her spells of that sort intermingled with the best you have to offer.
(Check MIT SPARK and SPLASH as well as Brown's programs and the RISD
summer programs) I know (anon 2) is doing a variety of online courses that
seem to work well for her and their family situation.
To be completely blunt, I really think the institutional
school system is completely dysfunctional, and if education and joy in
learning were the only things we wanted for our children, it would be
the worst place in the world. But there is other stuff going on, stuff
not really covered in a standardized test that has to do with peer
relationships and problem solving and coping and engaging with adults
besides parents. I also think that a homeschooler CAN offset some of the
deficiencies once the parents recognize that it's not some Sophoclean
idyll.
These are things I've pondered for 14 or 15 years, because
I've known since I taught school that I would be a homeschooler. If I
have it right, you have only been in this territory for just over a
year. If you are at all the sort of person to reflect, you know you are
probably failing (anon 1) in myriad ways, and it mostly sucks to not be
able to set our darlings on the bus and check education off our list of
things to do. (Sentences like that can sound so condescending in an
email, so please read this with a generous heart and know I feel
sympathy for your situation, not superiority or disregard.)
So, what are we to do? First, a "good" curriculum is pretty unsatisfying if you and (anon 1) don't like it. I use
http://www.amblesideonline.org/curriculum.shtml
. There are problems; I am not Christian and the people who provide
this curriculum are decidedly so. I actually like the arc that the
Waldorf curriculum follows, and this one follows a different philosophy.
There is no math, and the science is a little thin. The writing areas
are a bit vague for me. However, I really like how heavy the reading
component is and I like the variety that it offers. I like that it
emphasizes a style of learning that has been long gone in the
institutional system. I like that it was developed for people educating
children in a home.
It means I spend a fair bit of effort sculpting it into what I
want to teach, but this takes less time than completely writing my own
curriculum. I did write my own the first 4 years, with a Waldorf flair,
and the children and I spent too much of our time arguing about what HAD
to be done. Now, I substitute Waldorf type books for some of the
Christian books. I've figured out that some books I would have skipped
entirely have some important historic significance in our culture. I
supplement with this math curriculum:
http://www.cimt.plymouth.ac.uk/
. I have decided that science history combined with a strong focus on
natural history was fine until last year, Ezra's 7th grade year; now, I find a science curriculum or text that I feel good about. Last
year, I used three different cell biology texts, but this year, I want
more follow up. I am looking for a writing course I feel good about that
looks interesting. And so on....
My point is that I feel like I have brilliant children who
need college prep experiences, but I don't feel they're like (anon 2) and
able to do college type courses online yet. I have to have done at least
some of the reading I'm asking them to do, so that we can have good
discussions about them. I feel like my effort means they have more
intellectual engagement with the subject matter. I listen to them when
they really hate a particular book (Robinson Crusoe), and sometimes we
soldier on and sometimes we completely drop it (Pilgrim's Progress).
I also feel there are many valid paths to an "education", and
as the children get older, we have to become partners in what that
means. I use that curriculum because it seems inherently flexible and
it's free, but I know there are hundreds or thousands of choices out
there that are all pretty good in one way or another. Unfortunately (or
maybe the opposite), for a homeschooler to have lots of intellectual
engagement, the parent has to take up lots of slack and try to
find chances for the children to engage with peers both socially and
intellectually.
That was long-winded but maybe not more help than just knowing
that most homeschoolers who care are facing the same issues you are.